'She thinks I'm disrespectful': Dude refuses to call new hire by her requested title

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    KRACER DXRACER JOB O
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    AITA for refusing to address someone by their chosen form of address? I have been with a company for six years now. We are very informal with each other and have a fairly laid back culture. The company president is Dave, my boss is Lou, I tell employees who call me Mr. Smith (fake name) that my name is Dennis and that there is no need for formality.
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    We recently hired a new employee. The fake name I will give her for this post is Ginny Potter. In coming on board with us, Ginny signed all of her e- mails Ms. Potter.
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    When she answers the phone it's, "Good afternoon, this is Ms. Potter speaking." When she calls me, it's, "Good Morning, Dennis, this is Ms. Potter."
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    And my response is always, "Good morning, Ginny, how can I help you?" If I send an e-mail to Ginny, the response is signed by Ms. Potter. Emphasis hers.
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    She is three levels below me in a different line of report in terms of company hierarchy. So her supervisor's boss reports to someone on the same level as me, if that makes sense.
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    It got back to me that she thinks I'm disrespectful for not calling her Ms. Potter when I speak to her. When I spoke to others about it, most state that they just ignore it, don't use a name to address her, respond to her queries, and let her call herself what she wants. My boss thinks it's idiotic and that she's not at any level within the company to demand that.
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    When I told my wife, she replied that it's obviously a button for this woman and I'm being an by antagonizing her. My counterpoint to this is that nobody in the company gets addressed formally and if I don't call my boss or his boss by anything but their first names, I'm not going to formally address another employee several layers down the hierarchy.
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    [deleted] YTA she's being very polite about how she wants to be addressed and you're taking a all over it. She wants. to be Ms. Call her Ms. Your position doesn't excuse this behavior in fact it makes it worse.
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    AdmirableAvocado Yta It's about boundaries, not hierarchy. Maybe she likes to keep it formal so she can draw a line between private affairs. and work related stuff or she simply isn't comfortable being called by her first name. Absolutely nothing wrong with that.
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    Don't you have more important things to tend to other than gossiping about coworkers and be a blabbermouth? Honestly you sound exhausting to be around.
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    Notdoingitanymore YTA. Ummm someone once said a nickname to me when I use my full formal name (my parents never shortened it) For example, he called me Cindy when he clearly saw my name tag as Cynthia.
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    I saw his name was Rick. He kept calling me Cindy. All ducking day. So I started call him Ricky. Cindy this, Ricky that. Finally he said "my name is not RICKY Cindy" "Oh I'm sorry, should I call ? Bc Cindy is not you my name".
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    You are minimizing a grown woman. Who cares what her position is? Her name is Ms Potter. You don't know her personally. She has not given you permission to call her by her first name. Agree or not, it's disrespectful. She's given you respect, why won't you reciprocate?
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    SauronOMordor NAH She's allowed to have her preferences and I suppose you should respect that, but at the same time I find it a bit disrespectful on her part to insist on a more formal address for herself in a work environment where that is extremely far from the norm.
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    It would be one thing if everyone used titles at your workplace and she wished to be properly referred to as "Dr." because she has a PhD but you insisted on saying Ms or Mrs. But no one in your workplace uses Ms /Mrs/Mr/Dr so it's just weird.
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    beito14159 I can't remember the last time I called someone mr/ms and I've been working for years. No one is going to want to work with her if she acts like that. NTA, she sounds high maintenance
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